It's always comforting to hear that being alone doesn't mean that you're lonely which is not something I am here to dispute or debunk. Much as I am inclined to challenge conventions and norms, I humbly concede the irrevocable truth in this bold statement. Instead, I would like to point out the one possible logical flow that stems from this. Loneliness, as can be easily inferred, is a state of being that is determined by one's own judgment and perception as opposed to the raw number of people one is surrounded by. To that extent, being in a crowd surely doesn't remove the possibility of being lonely, as ironic and contradictory as that sounds.
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
Perhaps it is just as the aforementioned excerpt from "My Sister's Keeper" suggests--alone or not, there are occasional instances in which we feel a tinge of loneliness. It may be because what we say doesn't strike a chord with those that demand something interesting from our mouths. Or it may too be that the words of others fail to resonate with our passion and interests. Either ways, if you are lost in a crowd of people who you simply cannot relate to, you might as well be smothered by a group of individuals who you resent. That is being lonely, when your thoughts are rejected and nobody comes to affirm and reassert your beliefs. We can be in a world of over 7 billion people but still feel like we are living this life alone and that makes you lonely.
So what should you do?
I say go be alone, for that is the one true remedy to feeling lonely. As ironic as it sounds, the insensitive crowd of people around you only seek to perpetuate your state of loneliness as they remind you of how many individuals there are out there who are completely different from you. But remember that being different cannot only be perceived as being shunned or ostracized. Rather, it is a cause and prerequisite for being unique. By crawling back into your own solitude, you can better learn to appreciate the beauty and tranquility in the silence and emptiness that used to steal your heart into loneliness. Again, loneliness is a state of perception and self-induced harm. You only need to realize that being alone can accentuate the peace that has always been around you. But conflicting thoughts and interests from others are an impediment to this discovery, which explains the queer need to be alone before you can dispel the feeling of being lonely.
I say go be alone, for that is the one true remedy to feeling lonely. As ironic as it sounds, the insensitive crowd of people around you only seek to perpetuate your state of loneliness as they remind you of how many individuals there are out there who are completely different from you. But remember that being different cannot only be perceived as being shunned or ostracized. Rather, it is a cause and prerequisite for being unique. By crawling back into your own solitude, you can better learn to appreciate the beauty and tranquility in the silence and emptiness that used to steal your heart into loneliness. Again, loneliness is a state of perception and self-induced harm. You only need to realize that being alone can accentuate the peace that has always been around you. But conflicting thoughts and interests from others are an impediment to this discovery, which explains the queer need to be alone before you can dispel the feeling of being lonely.